- Do we find ourselves often being blamed for other’s hurt feelings? If so, we might need to ask someone we trust, love and admire to be honest with us by asking, “Am I rude? Do I sound condescending or judgmental when I speak to others? If you were to advice me on one thing that you thought would help me if I changed in my conversation with others, what would it be?” Then, be courageous enough to hear and act and thank your friend who loves you.
- Do we find ourselves angry at least once per day? How about once per week? Either of these amounts is a sure sign that we are struggling with understanding and controlling our emotions. Studies show that people who get angry more often are more unhappy. You might be saying, “Duh?” However, here’s something to consider. We choose to be angry. No one forces you or I to ever become angry. It’s a choice. And when we choose it, we are choosing unhappiness.
- Are we a slave to a bad habit? Do we have to have an alcoholic drink each day to “calm our nerves” or relax us? Do we have to have our coffee in the morning or we have no way of being responsible for our grouchiness, sleepiness or lack of focus. I could go on but the simple truth is this. If you need outside unhealthy habits to keep you going, you are allowing something other than yourself to be in control of you.