What Should I Know about Abortion?

Well, you should know the truth.

Topics like abortion, racism, the homeless, addiction, sexual exploitation are topics that we just don't want to think about, talk about and we wish everyone would stop throwing them in our faces!  Why?  Because we don't know what to do about them?  I mean sure, we hate these issues.  Sure, we wish they didn't exist. But, what can I or you really do about it?  We're just one person.

First, you can't be an expert on every human tragedy and every human social cause.  But, you can pick one or two causes that you are passionate about and start with trying to educate yourself about those causes.  Then, once you have received some knowledge, decide if you still want to become an advocate for that cause.  This isn't a race where we're trying to reach some finish line.  We're just trying to participate in the fight.

Abortion is a cause that God has led me to be more involved with.  I've always believed that it was wrong, meaning against God's law to abort a baby, but it wasn't until I gained more knowledge about the abortion industry, that I realized how abortion is the legs for so many other wrongs and the culprit for so much sickness and pain.

Don't let the first part of this article scare you away from reading the last part because the last part is the good news and the good part.

I have learned in addition to the millions of lives lost every year from voluntary abortions, that abortion feeds many other wrong ideologies such as racism (eugenics, targeting black communities), such as eliminating what the world would call "less desirables" (such as those with Down syndrome...heartbreaking reality), such as sexism (aborting females over males), and other sickening trends.  In addition, abortion is used to perpetuate illegal activity such as the exploitation of children and women (using abortion to eliminate pregnancies as a result of sexual exploitation so they can get back to work).  Everything connected to this industry is ugly, tragic and wrong for not only the unborn, but for the women who are also victims to this empire.

First, let's just understand a few lies and marketing strategies that the "Pro-Choice Industry" work extremely hard to get you to "buy into."

"It's just tissue"--You see, if you can dehumanize a human, then you can justify any treatment of that human.  It's true.  When people ask the question, "How could anyone have ever justified owning a person...having a slave?"  Well actually, it's not that hard, if you are taught that that human, who has a different color of skin than yours, is not equal to you and is in fact inferior, in need of tight control, unable to govern themselves, dangerous, etc.  In fact,  you might could even convince yourself that you are actually doing them a favor by owning them.  You are protecting them from themselves and their inability to care for themselves.

When people ask the question, "How could thousands of Nazi's buy into the lie that Jews were an inferior species (not even able to call human), and that their even existence would cripple and ruin the sanctity of life for the Anglo Saxon Superior Class and their children, then sure, one is able to do unspeakable things in the name of protecting their children's future.

When people buy into the same lie, that a baby inside the womb of a mother, is not really a human at all, with protected human rights, that of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, but is rather a blob of cells, then sure, those people can do anything to that baby.  That's why you will NEVER hear a Pro-Choice doctor or entity ever utter the word, "BABY," unless they slip up.

A Second lie that is the Pro-Choice industry's main marketing strategy is the HEADLINE, "A Woman's Right to Choose what she does with HER body and HER healthcare."  Oh Satan is so good!  Truly, he is.  I mean heck, that sounds like something I would be for.  I mean, I'm a woman and a very determined, independent woman at that.  Ask my husband or father.

I absolutely do not want someone telling me what I can and can't do with my body.  If I want to take Chemo if I find out I have cancer, then no one is going to tell me I can't (well maybe the insurance company will try).  If I don't want to take a vaccine, then I will not take it.  If I want to eat carbs all day, leave me alone, it's my body dammit!  Amen and Amen!

But no, if you want to go out and drive your car 60 miles an hour in my neighborhood, where my child is playing, you can't do that.  Because you do not have the right to endanger my child or anyone's child.  It may be your own neighborhood but you still can't do it.  You might say, "Well it's my children in the neighborhood and if I want to drive fast and endanger their life by my actions, that's my business."  Actually no, it's not.  You see, all people have rights.  That's why we have laws because of stupid people and careless people (I've been stupid before too), who forget others at times when pursuing their own desires.  

We protect the rights of all people.  The right to live free of violence, theft, defamation, exploitation, etc.  We do that through laws.  Not all of our laws have been perfect.  In fact, we've had some very bad laws...ie. Jim Crowe Laws.  Did you know that it was a felony for a white person to marry a black person?  Our constitution was not and is not perfect.  Thus we have amendments.  Do you remember that women were not given the right to vote until August 1920?

So yes, just because we have a law, does not mean it's a good law.  

That little baby growing inside of a woman, is a separate human being from the mother.  He/she has their own DNA.  Their own personality, human traits and characteristics.  Can any parent deny each of their children's uniqueness that they came to this earth with?  

It is a LIE to believe that a woman, has the right to decide what happens to the life of the baby she carries inside her womb.  Once a woman becomes pregnant, there are two humans, not one.  Yes, of course a woman has the right to determine what happens with her body, but that right does not include the right to end the life of another human being.  It just doesn't.  

Before we go on to a third lie, please just consider who is selling you on the lie of getting you to believe you do have that right, to end the life of the human inside you...the very entity that makes money when you buy into that lie.  THEY MAKE MONEY AND A LOT OF IT, WHEN YOU BELIEVE THIS LIE.

A third lie:  If the child is not wanted, they are more likely to be abused, neglected, etc.  It's just a lie people.  It's not true.  There are no studies that show this.  In fact, there are studies that show women who have had a least one abortion, are more likely to abuse their children. (1)

There is no evidence that when women go ahead and birth an unexpected and unwanted pregnancy that they are more likely to abuse their children.  Just because you didn't want to get pregnant or weren't planning on having a baby, does not make you a child abuser.  That is absurd.  

A fourth lie:  Keeping abortion legal prevents "Back-Alley" abortions which are dangerous for women.  In the year leading up to Roe v. Wade, the Centers for Disease Control, reported 39 maternal deaths occurred due to illegal abortions in 1972. (2)  Any loss of life is tragic but it does not compare on any level to the thousands (over 900,00 in United States currently per year) of innocent babies, innocent lives. This is just the truth.  Please investigate for yourselves.  Find out the facts.

Let's now talk about the women.  In 2020, there were headlines all over the news and publications including CNN, Forbes Magazine, Newsweek, etc. reporting on a study that found 95% of women surveyed, did not regret their abortion.  Well so there you have it!  That should say everything right?  But then, when you dive just an inch deeper into the study, you find that these were women who had had their abortion in the previous five years.  Do I need to go into some analysis why this matters or are you smart enough to think about it? I'm going to assume you are smart enough.

Of course they never will, but here's what I can tell you I've learned as I have met women who have had past abortions.  The women that have been brave enough to speak to me about their abortion are on average between the ages of 45 and 65.  Each and every lady that has spoken to me about their abortion, has kept it a secret for most of their life.  They don't talk about it because they can't face it and the feelings that come with speaking of it.  Often, the regret has grown over time, until it is all consuming.  I met one woman who was in her 60's and had never told her husband, children or anyone in her family.  She had been carrying the painful secret her whole life and felt so burdened by it that it had robbed her of a life of peace.

You see, I'm not interested in shaming anyone for having an abortion.  In fact, I feel like most women who have had an abortion, like their unborn children, are victims to the "pro-choice" industry.  Truly, they are.  They are lied to and marketed to by a very savvy and educated and money hungry industry that preys upon their fears, their traumas and their crises to make a profit.  Women are the victims here.

Why can most women not shake the feelings of regret regarding their abortion as they continue to age and mature and distance grows between their moment of panic and distress and today?  

Because the feelings of love that mothers (and also fathers) have for their unborn children does not come from us, it comes from our Father in Heaven.  Have you ever thought that it doesn't make logical sense how we can love this person inside us that we've never even met?  No, that doesn't make sense.  

Why do mothers and fathers, grieve the loss of a miscarriage for the rest of their lives?  Because the parent /child bond comes from God. It is a gift, given to us from Heavenly Father to help us to care for his children. Why can't you stop thinking about how old your child would be today and why can't you stop wondering what they would look like and what they would be doing?  Because he/she is your child.  You are their mother.  You are their father and their life ending or being ended does not erase that fact.

Why will you never hear these conversations from the Pro-Choice Industry?  You know why!  

When I hear people and organizations speak of how they are going to help women equality and women's rights by providing more affordable and more available abortions I want to SCREAM!!!!  

Stop!  Don't!  Wait!  It's a lie!!  

Playing a role in helping a woman end her child's life will not do what you want it to do. It will only imprison most women to a life a shame, guilt, sadness, self loathing, and even anger which cripples a woman's ability to be truly free and happy.

Empowering women means helping women to live lives of freedom!!  

When we choose to disobey God's law, and devalue any human being, inside or outside of the womb, it will only hurt us in the long run.  None of us can escape the penalty of sin.  I know the Pro-Choice Movement does not want us to speak of sin, and in fact, they use that Pro-Life argument to spew words like, "Judgement," "Condemnation," "Hate," and "Fanatics."  

But this isn't about judgement.  God is the only judge.  The rest of us on this earth are supposed to love one another.  Because I love you, I want you to know the truth.

Please, don't take one word in any sentence I've written as truth, until you find out for yourself.  I'm not perfect and I can see for myself that I don't write perfectly.  I ask that you pray with real intent and ask Heavenly Father to help you to understand what is true and what is not true.  Ask him to help you to discern his will regarding this important cause.  

That is what I have done.  I have had questions regarding this issue.  I have needed clarity for certain circumstances.  I have received answers as I have sought out truth.  

If you have had an abortion, may I leave you with the most amazing and wonderful news. 

Your Father in Heaven loves you so much.  The abortion you had has not affected his love for you in any way, nor could it.  

He wants you to be happy and to have peace in your life.  There is a path to peace always.  The path however does not include secrets.  Secrets destroy from the inside out.  May I suggest that you reach out to a trusted friend or family member.  May I also suggest that you reach out to your clergy.  Then, may I suggest that you reach out to a support group.  I will list a couple below.

In my own life, I have found that for me to heal from past choices I've made, it has helped me to take what I've learned from my own pain and experiences and use that wisdom to help others.  It's very healing when we do that, regardless of the pain.

I believe in you.  I believe in the sanctity of life.  I believe that the only answer to solve all of the heartaches, injustices (especially towards women), inequalities, abuse and exploitation of women, is to cling to the truths that come from God.  Therein lies all the answers.

If you have questions, comments, or need to reach out privately, please do so.  My email is:


Resources for Support for those who have had an abortion:




1. Priscilla K. Coleman, Charles D. Maxey, Vincent M. Rue, and Catherine T. Coyle, "Associations between voluntary and involuntary forms of perinatal loss and child maltreatment among low-income mothers." Acta Paediatrica 94, 2005

2. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "Abortion Surveillance--unites States, 2004."  Surveillance Summaries Nov. 23, 2007. MMWR 2007;56 (No.SS09). Table 19. www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/ss5609a1.htm

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